The History of Kink

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Our 10 Favorite Feminist Porn Stars

We love porn! If you do too, and we assume you do, otherwise you wouldn't be reading this article, then you need to know about the following women. These aren't any ordinary porn stars. These are our top ten favorite feminist porn stars. GetLusty's Stephanie Kathleen takes a peek into the provocative lives of some incredibly unique feminists.

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#1 Dylan Ryan

The gorgeous and outspoken Ryan began her film career in 2004 at the urging of director and producer Shine Louise Heart. In 2009, she was the recipient of a Feminist Porn Award for Heartthrob of the Year. One of the top stars of the queer porn genre, Ryan strives to make unique and authentic films. Check out her blog, triple-xxx-ploits, to see her recent interview with Tristan Taormino. Also, follow her on Twitter @thedylanryan

#2 Belladonna

Since beginning her career in the adult entertainment industry in 1999, this stunning film star has practically revolutionized the industry. In 2003, she started her own production company, Belladonna Entertainment. She now produces and directs some of the most popular hardcore adult films in the world. We couldn’t possibly omit her from our list of favorites, as she is clearly a badass. Follow her on Twitter @BelladonnaENT

#3 Lily Cade

Though she is somewhat new to the adult film scene, this one-time dominatrix has already made a name for herself. A rising star in the lesbian porn genre, Cade made her directorial debut in 2011 with Art School Dykes. The film was nominated for a Feminist Porn Award. When she’s not busy filming, Cade is an outspoken activist. Yea, she pretty much rocks. Follow her on Twitter @lily_cade

#4 Judy Minx

It’s hard not to love Madame Minx. The French adult film actress is also a sex performer, a sex educator, and a queer/feminist/sex-positive activist…and she’s only 23! Oh, and did we mention she also holds a degree in English? Keep an eye on this porn prodigy, as we’re sure to see a lot more of her in the future. Follow her on Twitter @judyminx

#5 Ela Darling

This former librarian decided to make a major career change three years ago and began starring in lesbian, bondage and fetish porn. Prior to pursuing a career in porn, Darling earned both a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree. We gladly include her among our favorites because we think self-possessed, intelligent porn stars are incredibly sexy. If you don’t believe us, check out her website and see for yourself! Follow her on Twitter @ElaDarling

#6 Bobbi Starr


This pro-sex feminist porn star began her career doing bondage and submission scenes for internet-based companies. We love Ms. Starr’s philosophy when it comes to feminism and porn: “I believe that if women realize that sex is something that is there for them as well, then it is not necessary to hate sex to be a feminist. It is not just pleasurable for one person but is pleasurable for that person's partner as well.” She currently writes, directs and performs for the website Electrosluts, which she created. Check out her work here. Follow her on Twitter @Bobbistarr


#7 April Flores

A star of the BBW scene, April Flores describes herself as “a fearless voluptuous star with scarlet hair, proponent of the queer community, feminist, sex-positive activist, outspoken advocate of body diversity, glamorous art model, avid kink fan, Sub and Dom both, and all around powerful woman.” With numerous magazine covers and modeling appearances to her name, Miss Flores considers herself an activist for positive body image. Visit her website and you’ll quickly see why she made our list of favorites! Follow her on Twitter @Fatty_D

#8 Madison Young

Indie porn pioneer Madison Young considers herself “one of the world’s kinkiest feminists. “Her films are known for exploring the more artistic and authentic aspects of the pornographic experience. She also runs a nonprofit art gallery and performance space, which serves the LGBT and Kink communities. Do yourself a favor and pay a visit to her website. Now! Follow her on Twitter @madisonyoung

#9 Kelly Shibari

Not only is Kelly Shibari a prolific BBW porn actress, she’s also a successful businesswoman with a MENSA-level IQ. She also runs her own PR and social media marketing firm. In short, the woman is driven and she knows what she wants. Through her websites she is revolutionizing the BBW and BDSM genres. Our interview with Kelly is coming out soon. Stay tuned! Follow her on Twitter: Follow her on Twitter @KellyShibari

#10 Maggie Mayhem

As one half of the dynamic duo behind the porn website Meet The Mayhems, Maggie Mayhem is a porn star with an eclectic style. In her words: “When it comes to sex, Maggie identifies as a queer, slutty kinkster. Neither wholly dominant nor submissive Maggie is always on the lookout for wild, adventurous fun with anyone who sparks her interest.” We’re crushing on Maggie not just because of her amazing on-screen talent, but also because of the dedicated work she has done and continues to do in the way of HIV prevention. Check her out! Follow her on Twitter @MsMaggieMayhem

We're excited to have Stephanie Kathleen on as a staff writer! Stephanie has long believed she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. She is a lover of good food, good sex and good grammar. A recent transplant to Chicago, she spends her free time with her super-duper-fly boyfriend and their three "kids" (2 cats, 1 dog). She has a blog. She's still trying to get the whole Twitter thing down. You can follow her @Vanderfloozie. Want to get in touch with her? E-mail stephanie@getlusty.com.

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The Importance of Safewords

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Sexual Negotiation 101

Negotiation before and during sex can be tricky but absolutely essential. Aren't experienced in the art of kink? A newbie at sexual communication? We think consensual sex is the hottest kind, and that's why we're writing on the importance of negotiation for newbies. This article is by Jean-Luc Gothos, who is an avid lover of kink and negotiation.

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It’s something that will always be a part of kink, BDSM and even non-kink encounters. Put your likes and dislikes on the table, and and honest to sexual communication improves all aspects of sex. This is the real key here; honest communication.  My perspective is slightly different then others. I generally only have committed partners, I don’t have one night stands or uncommitted relationships.

For the couples out there, these recommendations are just as important if they're trying new things out sexually or changing their sexual routine. Change requires conversation and negotiation!

These are ways that I've used negotiation. The way you use negotiation might be slightly different, especially in your communication style. Nevertheless, I'm sure you could use my experiences to learn about negotiation in your own love life.

Start of with, "hard limits"

Negotiation is an evolving process. It’s something that is always just a little different each time. It is always good to start with, "hard limits." Hard limits are the “No fucking way. Not for a million dollars!" things that you will not do. 

For example in the adult industry, some individuals will keep certain sex acts off limits. Why? They only want certain acts for themselves and/or their partners or they just aren't into it.

Ask & answer questions

For example, anal sex. Are you into anal or do you just have no interest in ass play of any kind? Pain, needles, electricity play.

What are your stances on such play? Do you enjoy being tied up and used, or do you like to be the one in charge? These are the questions you’ll have to be asking yourself and your partner. Once you have talk about all of that now it’s time to move onto the fun stuff.

Have a safe word

Now there is another more on-the-fly type of negotiation. This includes the yes/no form of negotiation. This type of negotiation takes place when your verbal skills have left because you have your partner pinned against a wall. 

During sex, you can always communicate with your partner saying stop with the safe word. For instance, if things are going to quickly and you want to stop, just use your safe word. 

Likely, naked sexy things are happening at a fast pace. Your not thinking as much as acting, and your partner is just giving a yes or no answers.  Why? You’re both just so caught up in the sexual energy that’s being exchanged. This is perfectly fine for established couples, however for first time encounters it is best to hold off and really take the time for real communication to happen. 

There you have it, a simple starter guide to negotiation, I’d highly recommend The Loving Dominate, The New Topping Book, and the New Bottoming Book all of which go into much more detail into the negotiation process. 

Jean-Luc Gothos is our resident pansexual geek. He's founder on Mindchaotica. He is also very active on Twitter, Facebook, G+, and Tumblr. I’m also a writer for Life On The Swingset, Kink~E Magazine, and he also reviews sex toys on EdenFantasys and writes for their sex positive online publication SexIs Social.

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