3 Ways To Reconnect for More Love This Weekend

Keeping happy and healthy relationships takes time and effort. They certainly don't fall out of the sky. In many romantic movies, there is almost always a, "happy ending". You might tear up, wishing that your relationship was that romantic and sweet.  Well, real relationships have ups and downs. They're not like the movies. Then again, love can be re-kindled and certainly can be re-ignited. So what does it take to maintain your love throughout the years? We'll have more articles on this topic, but re-connecting is an essential component to that. Here, Crimson Love reports on ways to re-connect for more love.

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Your relationship can be romantic and loving. In fact, your relationship should be amazing. At GetLusty, we believe if you put in effort, you too, can have an amazing sexual relationship! We also know you're busy. But daily or weekly, we've included several clear ways to re-connect and re-ignite your sparks around the love you both have for each other. Keep your relationship special. Re-connect! Read on.

1. Designate cuddle time

It may seem a little elementary for a couple to cuddle, but don't underestimate this activity. Turn off your phones and don't allow yourselves to be interrupted.

Taking the time to lay or sit together and cuddle allows you time to relax and reconnect both emotionally and physically.

Be fully present in the moment and take it all in, smell them, feel them, listen to them. There is no better place to be than to be in the arms of your lover.

2. Take a shower or bath together

Taking a shower or bath is a very intimate act in general, but doing it with your lover it makes it all the more special and intimate. Doing this allows you to see your lover in their most raw form and enjoy them in that way. Wash each other, shampoo your lovers' hair, take your time and don't rush. By doing this, you show your loved one your appreciation and care for them. Sometimes, you both want and need that boost and you don't even know it!


3. Cook together

Food is always a sensual experience when done right. Decide on a meal together, go to the store together if you can. Get in the kitchen, put on some music, drink some wine, feed each other and enjoy the time. Just have fun and catch up with each other.

When life gets busy, sometimes you have to be reminded to take time out with your honey and enjoy each others company. Give yourself the opportunity to fall in love or discover new things about each other. It keeps the relationship fresh and sweet.

With love from GetLusty!

This is a guest post by our very own Crimson Love. Crimson is our resident fetish expert. If you don't see Crimson out dining with her adoring boyfriend, you'll find her reading books on innovation or finance. Crimson is currently finishing off her Bachelor's, she is passionate about food, photography, music and especially sex--and she's not afraid to talk about it. With everyone!

Have story ideas? Get in touch with Crimson at amber@getlusty.com. 

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10 Super Sexy Halloween Costumes for Couples

I've been inundated with sexy Halloween costumes. For women mostly. But how about a sexy costume for couples? Loving couples are the most wonderful thing in the world to GetLusty! So if you're a couple and you have no idea what to wear for Halloween--check out these ideas! Portia Blush, our favorite contributor and producer of the ErogenoUS Blog, is here to give us sexy ideas for Halloween that we can both use!

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The day is almost here when we get to walk out our doors scantily clad, free from judgement, and don our alter egos for a night of fun and frolic without. No, it's not your friend's bachelorette party, I'm talking about Halloween of course! It seems in recent years Halloween has become synonymous with "sexy".

Everywhere you look, costume choices for us ladies seem to be short, tight, and definitely not for the shy, featuring super-low necklines, and ultra-high heels. And while it may seem that we ladies have this niche market reserved just for ourselves, there are just as many options for you men out there who want to flaunt your wilder side, too! I'm here to share with you 10 sexy costumes for men and women that will have all eyes on you, and all hands wish they were too!

#1 Gangster and Dame

They're dangerous and alluring, which is exactly what makes them sexy! This is proof that you don't have to be almost naked to have sex appeal. Nothing beats a man in a well-tailored suit, necktie, suspenders, and a fedora!

It just creates an aura of suaveness and sophistication; the kind that has us ladies running our fingers through our hair with wanton restrained desire. And ladies, nothing says that more to a man than a satin clad dame on his arm. Think Jessica Rabbit, or Marilyn Monroe; long curve-hugging dress, curled hair draped down her back, long elbow length gloves, and perched atop slender high heels. Yes, glamour.

#2 Police Officers - Partners in Crime

Who can resist a man or woman in uniform? Add some handcuffs, some boots that command attention, and a badge, and you'll have them waiving their right to remain silent in no time!

#3 Pirate and Wench

Prepare to be boarded! Pirates offer an air of mystique and danger. They were the original "bad boys", taking the high seas by storm, in leather pants and flowing open shirts. Think Captain Jack Sparrow and Miss Swan. They be a right sexy pair, matey! Ladies, a tight corset and pert breasts overflowing your bodice will have your pirate Captain begging you to walk his plank!

#4 Mad Men Theme - Don Draper and Betty

This show is incredibly popular for a reason. It literally sells an era where sexual tensions were running high, but hem lines were still hovering low. It has the allure and class, of a period in time where men were impeccable in well-tailored suits, cigar in hand, and women in demur yet flirty dresses or tight-fitting sweaters and pencil skirts, and were never without makeup. Recreate that power and intrigue, and watch the sexual tensions (among other things) rise!

#5 Vampires

You're probably thinking the gross ones with blood dripping, and going "Eww, not sexy", but vampires can be! Vampires are popular for a reason, and it's because they are sexy, alluring, and dangerous. They make us fear seduction, and crave it; all at once. Think the original meaning of Gothic; rich dark-colored velvets, draping shirts, tall boots, dark makeup, and just a hint of blood on the lips. Give yourself over to the dark side, and have fun seducing the night away!

#6 Cowboy and Cowgirl

Be that rough and rugged man of her dreams, guys! Ladies, be the sweet, yet sultry vixen that came tame the wild stallion he is. The Wild West wasn't called that for nothing! Saddle up to some fun this Halloween, and lasso yourself some fun!

#7 Doctor and Nurse

It's an ultra-popular fantasy for a reason. There is just something damn sexy about a man, or woman, who knows all the right things to make you feel better! Ladies need not be the only sexy ones here either! While nothing stops hearts more like a short and tight nurses uniform, a man in scrubs with a stethoscope (and nothing else), just makes a woman feel weak in the knees! Temperatures will rise and hearts will stop when you come dressed to heal, so be prepared to give lots of mouth to mouth!

#8 Julius Caesar and Cleopatra

Timeless and classic, and not to mention sexy as hell! An Egyptian Queen; beautiful, regal, and captivating, and a Roman soldier; brave, strong, and powerful. This is what good sexual tension is made from! Not to mention long flowing gowns and well-fitting armor! Rule the night by becoming these legendary loves!

#9 Tarzan and Jane

Love and sex are primal, so show your jungle fever as untamed jungle man, Tarzan, and damsel in distress, Jane! Men, let your wild side show in a loin cloth with your hair untamed! Ladies, let your wild mane of hair flow, and wear that skimpy leopard print bikini and wrap! Let your inner-lion roar!

#10 Superheros

It's the dance between good and evil that makes super heroes so fascinating to us. And maybe their tight suits, right ladies? You're sure to have the whole world's eyes on you both, whether you go as Batman and Cat Woman, dancing the line between control and surrender, light and dark. Or as Superman and his love, Lois Lane; saving the world, and his damsel, one heroic act at a time. Timeless love stories of heroism, combined with super sexy skin-tight costumes, are definitely sure to heave everyone wishing you could leap tall buildings in a single bound, and save them!

May your sexy Halloween costume romping have you doing so long after the party ends, and your costumes come off! Stay sexy, and as always, have fun!

Seeking to shatter the myth that "nice girls don't talk about sex", and somehow trying to survive her mid-30's in suburbia without large doses of vodka, Portia Blush is a saucy Sapiosexual who shares with an infectious wit and a candid vulnerability about her explorations of sex, love, intimacy, kink, the occasional obsession, and everything in between; one true story at a time.

She has over 10 years experience playing Switchy in the BD/SM scene, and has explored a myriad of relationship configurations from monogamous to poly. She holds a BFA from some hoity-toity NYC art school, and still ponders the meaning of life on a regular basis. Follow her on Twitter @erogenousblog and Facebook and of course, ErogenoUS her blog.

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5 Women's Sex Mistakes & Remedies

This article is by our UK-based contributor, Sara Albaladejo.

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Girls, we may be doing it wrong! Have you ever seen that weird look in your man’s eyes after performing your sexiest move? Was that a groan of pleasure or is he just too polite to tell you that it hurts? Carrying on with our series of things you shouldn’t do in bed, this time we are focusing on what we, women, should avoid doing.

Before sex

Problem #1: hairy, messy bush 

Are you sexy and you know it but too exhausted to show it? Sometimes you can’t be asked to go through the whole process of grooming: waxing, plucking, choosing sexy underwear. While it's true that many man don't really care about your panties--or even your bush--it's a great idea to maintain a good sense of hygiene so he can lick and suck everywhere.

Remedy: Pamper yourself & trim

Take it as the baking before eating the cake. Get ready thinking all you are doing will be rewarded later on. While you're trimming down there, why not pour yourself a glass of wine? Maybe not three--you're handing your precious bits. But one glass of wine and a nice bath, it'll be like a mini holiday! Also, it can be a good opportunity to pamper yourself and rediscover those parts of that amazing body you forgot.

Tip: Trim that bush. And I don't mean just what is down there, we have also a behind we can enjoy that may need some mowing. Although the act of having your anus kissed is called “the dark kiss”, it doesn't mean that you should keep your butt in darkness. We have already discussed the advantages of trimming (and or shaving or waxing, if you're so adventurous), so next time you are grooming your pubic hair, how about going a bit further?

Side note: Douching is completely unnecessary and potentially harmful according to Planned Parenthood, so we recommend against it.

During sex

Problem #2 Quietness

Have you ever felt embarrassed of your voice during sex? Yeah, I've been there, too.

On the other side, how about the moment we hear our lover groan and moan in the heat of the moment? We all love to hear the moan coming out the mouth of the man we are pleasing. They love it too.

Remedy: Moan

It is proved that moaning and controlling our breathing increases the pleasure of the orgasm and letting your partner know how much you are enjoying his thrusting is a sexy reward. Let yourself go, groan and scream if you like. Telling your man what you want is an effective way to improve your sex life and it comes in handy when he does that thing that makes your head spin around.

Problem #3: Telling him what you want

The trouble is when they don’t seem to find the right spot and you start giving directions as if you were in the car holding a map upside-down. It is frustrating and he probably will give up at the second time you say “More to your right. No, not like that. Keep going to your right.”

Remedy: Show him

Subtly swing your hips towards the point you want him to find. In case he is still flying blind gently take his hand and move it to where you want. Feeling wild? Do it yourself in front of him, he would probably love the view!

Problem #4: Surprise!?

Not satisfied yet? You may want to have a look at some different ideas to surprise your hubby the next time you warm the sheets, but be careful. Because that article you read on your way home says you should try dripping hot wax on your boobs (and it swears he’ll love it), it may not be the best idea.

Remedy: Just ask

Don't be gullible. Get your ideas from specialized sources (like GetLusty of course) and ask your lover if you aren’t sure. Does he like to get spanked? Dominated or dominate you? Talk about it first and open up the conversation on ending your boring sex. It's totally OK to admit your sex is getting somewhat usual (which is totally normal for married & long-term partners).

Problem #5: Surprising him with new toys

Do you have toys? I bet you wouldn’t mind him to be part of your games, but suddenly taking out of your drawer your set of beads and your dildo isn’t going to make him clap in excitement.

Just the fact that you have toys can be an issue. Your partner may see it as a threat to their masculinity instead of a chance to spice up the relationship.

Remedy: Again, just ask

Your man enjoys a good surprise. And hopefully, he'll want to end your boring sex session as much as you do. Either way, you can't move forward until you get your voice heard. Again, ask your partner and discuss it beforehand. That way you will make sure that both of you are enjoying the experience.

Pic #1 Thanks to memegenerator. Pic #3 Njoy dildo thanks to PinkCherry!

Sara is our resident, sexy British-Spanish writer. After finishing high school she followed the family tradition of becoming a teacher, and graduated as a Foreign Language Primary Teacher in 2011. Since then she has been living in the UK, where she copes with the British weather with her loving boyfriend. She is passionate about writing and was awarded various contests in Spain (where she was born) and has also been recognized one of the best writers of her age in her region in 2010. She loves taking her camera out whenever she can, as photography is another of her hobbies.

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You're Perfect! 9 Pics to Remind You

This is just a quick note & some pictures reminding you: you're beautiful!

From silkandsatan.blogspot.com

Thanks to glogster.com

via DayToBeYou.com

Picture from MountainSideBride.com

From BodyLoveAlchemy.

From ThatBlondeOne.

From Wanelo Blog.

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